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CHAPTER 5









                                 TALKING TO MY



          CHILDREN/GRANDCHILDREN







                Children often
             ‘know’ that things

              are changing for

                  a parent or
                 grandparent
                without being

                       told



















                       hen you start trying to adjust to      isolated by the lack of conversation around the
                       your illness often your reaction is to  changes that they see or hear about. Children who
                       protect your children from upset. It   are included in what’s going on are less likely to
                       can be hard to know whether you        have problems adjusting to your illness, though it
        Wshould tell children about your                      may still be hard learning to adjust.
        illness or what and how much to tell them.
           Even though you know your children or              WHEN SHOULD I TELL THE
        grandchildren best, you may be surprised at how       CHILDREN/GRANDCHILDREN?
        well they deal with the news. We cannot stop             You may need to come to terms with the news
        children from feeling sad at difficult news. However  yourself before you talk with your children. Often
        by giving them information and helping them           there is not a right time. Children can feel more
        understand their own reaction we can support          included in the treatment plan if they are informed
        them.                                                 in the early stages of the illness. A good time to
           Children often ‘know’ that things are changing     talk with them is before some obvious change
        for a parent or grandparent without being told. For   occurs, like significant fatigue, hospital admissions
        that reason it is important that they do not feel     or commencing dialysis.


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